How many hours of sleep and/or downtime would you get if you allowed yourself to be fully human? What would regular rest and downtime look like if you let yourself be fully human? What would you put down, leave behind, stop doing, or start prioritizing from an allowed-to-be-fully-human space? Pretend it can no longer steal your peace or make you wobble through your to-do list far past the point of exhaustion. Pretend you are no longer bound to the demeaning, Never-Good-Enough voice in your head. Pretend that Resting Bitch Voice has no power over you for the space of the next 3 questions. Whether the roots of your particular RBV are located in capitalism, in your upbringing, in your cultural inheritance, or all three…you don’t have to let it steal rest from you any longer. Thus, I’m passing this intelligence along to you. I had to learn that Resting Bitch Voice a.) exists and b.) can singlehandedly ruin my health when I listen to it. (Resting Bitch Voice LOOOOOOOVES Instagram.) There is a long list of mental and physical symptoms that appear when I de-prioritize sleep, rest, chill time, down time, and generally not giving a fuck about the internet. There are all the years that I’ve pushed too hard and deepened my own depression. There was that time my thyroid went down for the count and I learned to make tiny, annoying progress after napping twice before noon for a number of months. My natural tendency is to WAKE UP AND DO SHIT UNTIL I DROP.īut my body is clear about the consequences of not resting. Rather, I’m talking about the mechanics of rest because it’s hard for me.
I’m not telling you about Resting Bitch Voice because this is easy work. (Related: it doesn’t count if you don’t enjoy it.) Rested people give the finger to hustle culture by working smarter, not CONTINOUSLY FOR EVERY MOMENT UNTIL DEATH. Rested people are better able to show up for their lives, their businesses, and their loved ones. While I identify myself as a business coach, much of my work is helping people DISengage from capitalism’s shitty side effects. Unfortunately, most of the business-owning peeps I work with are OWNED by Resting Bitch Voice. You can learn to treat Resting Bitch Voice like an inconsequential phone notification, which can dismissed as easily as a random fact you don’t care about showing up on your screen. Much of learning to rest is learning to disengage from Resting Bitch Voice. You need the weekend to recuperate from this week’s work? It NEVER stops questioning your Very Human Limitations.Īnd pee and poop and sleep and move around and talk to other people, too…? GOOD LUCK RESTING NOW, HUNNY! Ultimately, Resting Bitch Voice continuously conveys that it is NOT OKAY to be human. Let me remind you of each task on your future to-do list every few seconds, thus causing your workload to haunt you indefinitely. If and when you manage to ignore each of those questions, it changes tactics. Why can’t you just HANDLE YOUR SHIT without having to sleep, chill, ask for help, or unplug?
Why is the pandemic STILL making you tired? Why aren’t you working ahead when you know you have to do next week? Why can’t you do all these tasks on this very long list and THEN rest? Resting Bitch Voice will also pipe up about how you’re doing rest WRONG. When you manage to stop hustling, pushing, or powering through, RBV will go ahead and shame you for being ‘lazy’ or ‘selfish’ or both. You must keep hustling, pushing, and powering through. You’re not allowed to wipe everything from your calendar because your body is falling-down tired. You can’t just wake up on any given day off and then go right back to bed. Psst! This is an episode of my podcast, That’s What She Said! Listen in below or keep reading for a transcript-ish version.įirst and most obviously, Resting Bitch Voice makes you EARN rest. Resting Bitch Voice keeps you tired, overworked, stressed, steeped in martyrdom, and unable to articulate exactly why you feel like a bag of old turds. It’s like Resting Bitch Face, only this doesn’t just make you look like you’re pissed when you’re in the latest edition of People magazine. I’m going to call this portion of my asshole brain Resting Bitch Voice. That’s why today I’m choosing to talk about the places you might find within yourself that are fucking you over in capitalistic ways that we’ve come to accept as par for being alive in Western culture. It’s hard for me to pretend that exclusively talking about getting better at business will help you the most, since capitalism is itself a destructive and nefarious force that extracts resources and labor from humans and the planet, no matter the cost. It’s hard to know what to talk about right now.
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